Marriage with God

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Hanuman shows only Ram and Sita are in his heart

Traditions around the world speak of a deepening relationship with God, a marriage with God. This feeling for God as your all and all, your Beloved, is both dual in nature, of being lover and beloved, and also holds out a promise for complete mergence of two who become one.

Human love of one for another has so very many variations, but a romance includes physical chemistry and deep emotions of the heart. One of the great challenges of human love is to separate out chemistry (lust) from real love. Chemistry can be a powerful imitator of love, at least in the beginning. Chemistry can make you feel that you cannot live without another, you can only think of another, and in intimate moments that you are merging one into another. However, chemistry can be had with someone with whom you are not compatible on any other level. When the chemistry subsides, as it always does, and there is no friendship, no alignment of interests or purpose, then there is a sense of betrayal of “love.”

Real love endures and is based on respect and  friendship–it is a feeling that resembles the patina of wood. Patina is created through years of usage, and even those things that can be not good for the finish, sunlight, dust and scuffs all add to the patina that give it a rich glow that cannot be created in any other way except through time and usage. There are times when love has to endure much, but in the end it creates a deepening glow that shines all the more with kindness, care and usage.

This human love, whether in romance, friendship, work or familial relationships is all preparation for our marriage with God. God is the consummate lover, ever attentive, giving and keen for your welfare. However, even as God gives all, so does He demand all. The principle of, “As you give, so shall you receive,” is never more true than with God. Human tendency is to withhold from another when hurt and disappointed. This tendency must be overcome, not only in human relationships (this is part of the preparation for the Divine Romance), but most especially you must learn not to withhold from God. There is a mathematical preciseness–exactly the way you withhold equals blocking out the flow of God; not because God is withholding from you, but because you have built a barrier through your withholding.  

When you learn to surrender, to give your all, then the floodgates open and you receive the infinite nature of God–unending love, ever-new bliss, life, wisdom thoughts, expansive consciousness, unending gifts of Spirit. Now, as you receive, so you give. You give all that God gives to you back to God, God as Spirit, God as creation. The more you give, the more you receive, the more you receive, the more you give. The patina of Spirit grows and glows, and you are infinitely enriched as God gives to God. You give without thought of what you will receive, only knowing that it is God giving through you, and you giving back to God in whatever way He directs.

In that direct relationship with God, giver and receiver merge and are ultimately consumed, one into  another. One becomes two, and two become One, a play of Spirit, not to create separation but enjoy the giving and receiving in its unending variations. Think what a dismal life of playing it alone results in, when compared to the wonder and beauty of being God’s expression and beloved. God, being the senior partner, is not unmindful of the wishes of His beloved, however His will is far reaching, wise beyond counting, and takes into account the good of all. Therefore, God is not going to cater to every wish of His beloved, but definitely compensates for every lash that may be received for His Name’s sake.

To enter into this Divine Romance you begin with giving, surrendering, serving, and loving. If you cannot find it in you to know how to do these things, then pray to your Infinite Beloved to show you how. If you stand back in indifference or fear, then you are withholding–with predictable results. Love can only be known through free will, love can never be compulsory. We ever stand on the threshold of a new beginning, and even now you may enrichen the patina of your Divine Romance and explore the infinite nature of your Beloved by stepping through that doorway.      

Marriage-The Great Fulfillment

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Ram and Sita-one of the great love stories of all time

Marriage is one of the great foundational structures in society that serves many purposes. Marriage fulfills our desire for a loving partnership between husband and wife, it provides a nurturing home for children, it has both shared and divided tasks by husband and wife and extended family that makes life easier and brings balance, it is a way to build prosperity and endure adversity when it comes. So many benefits that come with a working marriage.

However, all this must be tempered with the reality of a life lived together. As a mediator I worked with many couples, most were in trouble. We have all grown up with the children’s stories that end with, “And then they lived happily ever after.” And so ends the fairy tale after strife, struggle and overcoming great odds for the two to come together. If this is part of the anticipation in marriage, that coming together as man and wife is the end of difficulties and a vague “happily ever after” vision, then there will be great disappointment on the horizon.

It is oftentimes assumed that a married couple, once they have confirmed their vows should know how to be married. However, what experience shows is that marriage holds all the pleasure and all the pain that all life brings to us. Knowing how to maintain intimacy, handle financial challenges, stresses of work, raising children, keeping home and cars and all the business of life requires a great learning curve. Marriage unfolds as we grow older, and rarely is it everything one or both in a couple thinks it will be. For some it seems a betrayal that differences come into play, that there is anxiousness around money, intimacy, children, remaining monogamous and more-it all seems to separate husband and wife, not support them.

One of the themes that I see repeated in struggling marriages is being able to hold respect for one another. It is easy to vent stress upon a partner, the one closest to you. Having travelled to campgrounds with RVs, it is interesting to observe couples managing backing a trailer or motorhome into a campsite. For many, it is not a familiar or comfortable situation, and communication can quickly devolve into anger and blame when it is not going well. For some raising a voice and finding fault comes as a matter of habit. I have thought that if some were to be videotaped during such interractions–one or both would be embarrassed as to how they sound, tone of voice, words used like weapons, meant to hurt and do damage.

Finding a place of respect for one another is one of the great secrets in a successful marriage. I love to hear one partner speaking in praise of another when the other in not in the room. To be over familiar, discounting, constantly blaming poisons the atmosphere. Master once told the story of when he went back to India. One of his cousins had married a woman that Master’s family had tried to arrange for him. She treated her husband terribly, verbally abusing him while in his presence and when he was not in the room. Master took her aside and said that since they had once been intended for each other he felt he could tell her that the way she treated her husband was not correct. That if she wanted happiness, she must change.   

What is perhaps the strongest bond in a marriage and represents the greatest potential is the spiritual bond that goes beyond personality, situation, or worldly pressures. One key is a mutual understanding that God has brought you together, faith that you are meant to be a couple, and by remaining spiritually aligned God can work out the kinks and make things even better between you; that your attunement with God brings out more love, tolerance, patience, and being able to see the divinity in one another (what greater intimacy is there than that!). When a couple seeks to serve God in one another there are no limits to the fulfillment that can come about as a result.  

Marriage cannot be a simple “Happily ever after,” but that does not mean it cannot be the most meaningful and loving relationship you can have on a human basis. It is the working out of life that can either draw you closer together to solve the many problems faced, or it can tear you apart. To be connected to God within, letting Him guide you, awaken love in you, give you the courage to open yourself fully in the presence of another is the greatest ally you have in bringing out the best in a marriage. In the end, marriage is your practice ground for your oneness with the Infinite Beloved, and being one with Him in all of what life brings to your doorstep, “For better, for worse, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in adversity.”  Amen!

Transitions-All is Well

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Rainbows in the Desert of Utah-after doctor’s appointment

Endings and beginnings always dovetail one to another—a birth leads to an end, and a closure opens a new door.  When we began this North American Pilgrimage we had a skeletal plan as to the course of our circumambulation of the continent. We were directed by God to seek out Nature’s Cathedrals, be led to places of saints and holy sites, look upon all people and situations as expressions of God, and explore the spiritual roots of the creation of this great American experiment proclaiming the rights of the individual and the audacious idea of popularly elected leaders.

A great wealth of this North American continent is her natural wonders. Pristine landscapes hold special meaning for each one: for the sightseer it is the rugged beauty of magnificent outdoors, for an artist it is a canvas of inspiration, for the mystic it is a profound feeling-vibration of a place and unveiled depths of realization—these being unrivaled by any other experience. We have journeyed from Utah’s Bryce and Zion Canyons, Nevada’s Valley of Fire to Glacier, Black Hills, Yellowstone, Grand Tetons, Redwoods, Joshua Tree, Palm Canyon, Borrego Springs Desert, New Mexico’s Gila Cliff Dwellings, Florida’s Suwanee River, Georgia’s Skidaway Island and Tallulah Falls, South Carolina’s James Island, North Carolina’s and north on the Blue Ridge Parkway, Greenbelt National Park in D.C., Maine’s Acadia National Park, Pemaquid Point Lighthouse and Bass Harbor, Michigan’s Mackinac Island, and Alberta’s Banff and Lake Louise. Though this reads on this page as a simple list, each of these places holds an experience for us—highlights in the body of God—genuine spiritual upliftment was felt at these wonderful Natural Cathedrals.

Besides these Natural Cathedrals we were privileged to have the darshan of man’s cathedrals and places of worship: Idaho’s Old Mission, Utah’s Mormon Tabernacle, Master’s retreat in Encinitas, Tucson’s Native Pow Wow and Mission San Xavier del Bac, San Antonio’s St. Joseph Church, Savannah’s St. John the Divine Cathedral and the Congregation Mickve Israel Synagogue, Daufuskie Island First Union African Baptist Church, The National Cathedral, Quebec City’s St. Anne’s Basilica, Montreal’s St. Mary’s and Brother (Saint) Andre’s St. Joseph Oratory. We found the vibration of God in these and many other places of worship powerful and uplifting.

For inspiration on spiritual roots of the making of a nation we had the opportunity of taking in the sites of Mt. Rushmore, the Little Big Horn, Huston Space Center, Forts Sumpter and Polaski, Colonial Williamsburg, Jamestown and Yorktown battlefield, Monticello and Mount Vernon, Washington D.C. and the Smithsonian Museums and the Capitol Building, Lincoln Memorial and the Washington Monument, Pennsylvania’s Gettysburg, Massachusetts’s Concord and Connecticut’s Mystic Seaport.

I am such great gratitude for the opportunity for Carla and me to take this pilgrimage around this great continent and to take you with us in spirit and through these writings. Of course for all the places we went there are so many more that could be explored, but these are the places that God took us to, and are therefore perfect. Arriving back to Camano Island came in the natural course of our travels, but we both felt we could continue the life of nomadic pilgrims, always enjoying the starting of the engine after a stay somewhere, feeling the awakened interest, what will come in the course of our travels today? However, “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” A time for pilgrimage, its completion, and a time for home.

Upon arriving we are once again in the saddle of service, a meeting in person with all those in our “virtual office,” those helping with putting Mother’s talks and transcripts into usable form and eventual books. Jerry and Lois are hosting a welcome home Service and potluck Sunday, and Monday we will say goodbye to our dear friend Win at a graveside service, then time with Kathy and family and hot fudge sundaes on the same day as a full solar eclipse (the last one was on my birthday in 1979 when Larry and I went to Eastern Washington to get a full view and experience of it). Then there is getting caught up on correspondence, the business of life, and spending time with Mother’s words preparing them for publishing, and whatever else God has slated–as I know He will fill the days and nights not only with His Divine Presence, but seva (service) to Him in all forms.

In any transition there are many things to do, sometimes there is a grinding of gears while shifting from one mode to another. It is good to be mindful of transitions in life, both small and big. Leaving or arriving home from work is a transition, going on vacation (there are many circumstances of those going on vacation getting sick, as if they can let down, and somehow that translates into the immune system letting down as well), there are those larger life transitions, sickness and death that cause even greater ripples and sometimes tsunamis in life. Through it all: to breathe, to be mindful, and to stay connected with God so that we are ever anchored to our true Self, not swept away in the many changes that life is constantly offering us. If we were very mindful, we will notice that even the tide of breath from in to out, and out to in is a transition. May you ever move into life’s new situations with a calm, knowing oneness with your Heavenly Father, Divine Mother ever with you, guiding you, and giving you inner assurance that no matter the changes, all is well, all is well.

Picture: Glacier National Park

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Twisp, Forest Fires, Win & Come to Me!

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Methow –River Valley of Peace

While in Banff, Lake Louise and while heading west and south we have been party to an abundance of smoky skies, depending on the winds sometimes thick with smoke, sometimes clear blue skies. It is said that this is the worst year for forest fires in over half a century. Going down a canyon road we drive by a hill with multiple fires on the hill next to us; helicopters flying overhead with large dangling buckets of water going to their appointed tasks of dampening spreading flames; brave hardworking forest firefighters taking a break next to the road with smoke blackened faces.

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A Forest on fire

Up at Williams Lake Dianne D. is performing seva (even while their own home may be threatened) by issuing vouchers to those who escaped from fast running fires, leaving their threatened homes, some with nothing but the clothes on their backs. For the forest’s sake it can be beneficial for the lightning induced fires to burn what they will, renewing the forest in its wake–surprisingly few animals are killed in a forest fire as they flee or find shelter. But it is a hard thing for those who have homes and property in the forest, to lose all according to the whims Agni, god of fire, that consumes one tree and leaves another next to it untouched. Our hearts and prayers go out to those affected by the fires, and for the safety of the firefighters.

As we motor further south the smoke filtered skies go with us–stretching across British Columbia, Washington and Oregon. From Osoyoos through the Okanagon and finally to Twisp, to one degree or another the gray residue of burning forests continues. Just 20 miles away from Winthrop/Twisp there is a fire growing in a wilderness area and we see the residue flowing in, then thinning to blue skies, only to darken once again depending on the wind direction.

Such is this creation, that preservation and destruction are intrical parts of the whole. When a little girl asked Meher Baba, “Why are there wars?” He asked her in return, “Why do you make stinky?” Not that wars are necessary to life, but when humankind lives out of harmony with natural and spiritual law then it is a predictable outcome. In a golden age when natural and spiritual law are observed and lived, then many things out of balance now will be brought into harmony. When a creation becomes so attuned to higher thought and vibrational living then a material world may simply transmute into pure spiritual Being–such things are possible and do happen. However, we are far from such harmony today–though we cannot discount that, like a rising flood, God’s power can sweep over this earth and make it new. How my heart yearns for such a lifting up of one and of all.

The constant rolling of wheels underneath us for the past weeks are currently silent. The river flows by and the earth hums quietly, bringing peace in earth’s flowing currents. It is a time to restore before making the last part of the journey. God has me in His all-powerful, blissful grip and is whispering to me, “Tell one and all to enter into their silent caves of meditation and feel My uplifting power. I yearn to give My devotees all they need to fulfill their heart’s desires, for it is in My power to do so. Tell all, ‘Come to me!’”

Win: While we are here in the Methow Valley Win Smith breathed his last breath. His heart has been pumping less and less life-giving blood. Win talked of living to 120, but his years fell short of that goal. Win has been a wonderful example of staying focused on the Guru through these past 65 years. He often said that Mother was the greatest person he had ever met, and never wavered in his faith in her. He has been generous to this work, giving regularly and generously. In the early 1980s I was injured at work and off of work for a year while I went back to school to finish my degree. One day Win came by with two large boxes of canned vegetables in thoughtful support at the time–I know he and Kathy have helped others as well. In kirtans Win sang with all his heart, he gave bone crushing hugs, and always had some witticism to offer, or a time-tested saying at the ready, and wished everyone well. I know that he is with Mother, and Mother is with him–a joy-filled, heart-filled reunion. I will miss him. It resounds in my mind his wish to all, as he smiles his smile, “Have a cheery day!”

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Our dear friend Win

 

 

 

Banff

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My Mystic Mountain Friend in morning reverie

Travel Note: It proved unexpectedly quite difficult getting internet connection while in Canada, so I was not able to send this out last week. Currently we have entered back into the States and we are pointing our noses back toward Camano Island–should be there by Monday. All through Canada we were pressing forward to meet Carla’s sister and grand nephew on time, so we are taking a few days next to the Methow River, enjoying not being in motion–it feels very restorative. We are also getting caught up on email and various tasks easily done here, but not before. So it is with great joy that I am able to connect with you once again and get caught up on our North American Pilgrimage.

Banff: Our pilgrimage has brought us west to the Canadian Rockies, rugged stones piled ten thousand plus feet high–peaks standing amongst the clouds–rivers ribboning through valleys–lakes mirroring the peaks and sky above. Banff and Lake Louise much deserve to be known as reputed beauties and the area famous for its outdoor life. We have picked up Carla’s sister and eleven year old grand-nephew flown in from Georgia for a week in these glorious mountains.

As part of nature’s outdoor cathedrals it is one thing to admire its many beauties, but what stands out to me are a couple of peaks that soar above us and shed their great presence each morning and throughout the day. It has been my experience that mountains, trees, rivers, lakes and the land itself emanates life-energy consciousness–there is no such place that is lifeless. Particular places bear greater vibrational weight, they radiate more life and have a presence that is undeniable. While out in nature a hunter will see game as something to shoot; a lumberjack will measure trees to topple; a photographer will frame an image to capture; a loner will find space to breathe; and a mystic will be receptive to the inner life of nature’s wonders. One peak I see every morning and I feel its power and majesty–it has become a friend. In the life of a mountain, measured in multi-millions of years my time with it is less than a blink, yet we sit in silent communion one with another. It is wonderful to commune with nature and not only see its beauty but sense its spirit as well: pitch dark Ravens, Black Billed Magpies with florescent green tail feathers, and Columbian Ground Squirrels come to visit daily and scamper under feet.  

Throughout the world and down through time we find that every race and ethnicity has its own specialities, its particular genius. Many of the native tribes of North America have had a close relationship with nature, perceiving spirits in various animals and the overarching Great Spirit–both immanent and transcendent. To perceive the Great Spirit as all-pervasive is an astounding gift for any who knows it. Although we use the gifts of nature for our food, habitation and depend on it for life itself, it deepens our life-experience to see nature as something more than something to exploit, kill or tame. The creation of large national parks as a means for keeping portions of the earth in a more natural state is a remarkable idea that has found fruition here and many other places around the continent. After seeing so much of Europe and the East Coast lose its pristine forests and natural settings there was a determined effort to preserve a substantial amount of land in the West–keeping it fresh for future generations. We are all the beneficiaries of this marvelous idea and Banff National Park stands out as a wonderful example of this principle. May generations to come find they can rest in, enjoy and find spiritual nurturance from pristine nature–cathedrals made of stone, tall trees, flowing rivers and cool lakes.

Morning Thoughts on Pilgrimage and Choices: We will be soon making our way west and south, completing our pilgrimage of these past seven months. What will come next? God knows. Each day of this pilgrimage brings its wonders and its challenges; in that sense it is no different than any other time of life. Travel has not left the time I would like for working on Mother’s writings, and this work I feel is coming closer as we make the transition to being home-based without wheels underneath–at least for a while! Even as we have travelled this pilgrimage without an itinerary it is little different than how my journey in life has been in general. It is a matter of what God wishes from moment to moment.

You may say, “Well, I do not have that freedom.” In a sense that may be true. But in another way of thinking we are the sum total of all that we have done, and that has led to this moment in life–it is here that our choices have brought us. In that sense, you too choose to be where you are, doing what you are doing, and being who you wish to be. Some may think, “This is not the life I would like,” but is it not true that in any journey you make there are times you regret the road you are on? Deep analysis of your situation reveals that your life is the sum total of choices that you have made, perhaps some of those decisions are from a very distant past, but that ultimately this life is perfectly designed for you. Within the context of your life you may choose happiness or unhappiness, to act in harmony or disharmony, to put your mind on God or the delusion of this world. You know what I would have for you: to be happy, harmonious, and filled with the light and the bliss of God. The question always is, “What do you choose?”  

Picture: Columbian Ground Squirrel who came out of his hole each morning to sit by my feet.

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